Blur blur waters... can't see a thing

You know what is the most hateful thing about a courtship? Everything's like its in the blurry waters... you can't see a darn thing... so you have to feel around... yes you do get the occassional surprise (a pleasant one), but most of the time, it probably shock you till there's no reaction other then the gapping goldfish expression...

I don't like rude shocks or surprises... nobody does... If only everyone can just settle with HONESTY and TRUTHs, everything will be so much simpler wouldn't it be?